Feminine & Fabulous Newsletter
Happy Mother's Day, Sisters!!!!
Dating back to the era of Ancient Greek and Romans, Mother’s Day is a holiday honoring motherhood that is observed in different forms throughout the world!
People honor you for all the amazingly beautiful things you do for your family, the influence you have on all you connect with. You may say, but I'm not a Mother. I say we are all Mothers in some form to someone, do you have a neighbor or child you have touched or offered words of encouragement or love too? Are you an Auntie who lights up a room when your niece or nephew sees you? School Crossing Guard, that children feel protected with? The kind smile you share with strangers, letting them know you care?
As women, we want to give and let others know they matter. Isn't that what a Momma does for her children (much more..)? We care for others; what are we doing to take care of ourselves?
Today, give your family and friends the "Gift of Giving". Allow them to give back to you! Allow them to express their love and appreciation for who you are. Allow them to experience "giving back".
More importantly, allow yourself to receive the blessings in gratitude, in acceptance, and in love. Allow yourself to practice the beautiful art of "Self-Care"!
Self-care is not only important for you to do regularly, it is a necessity! You must self-care in order to be your authentic self! You must give back to you, in order to give back to others with a filled heart of love and joy.
I honor all women and dedicate this month to Self-Care Awareness month and Becoming Your Own Best Friend!
Happy Mothers Day!
Blue Skies and Blessings,
Self-Care: Becoming Your Own Best Friend
Need someone to work extra days? Ask me. Someone who’ll clean up the place because we’ve scheduled an open house? Sure. I’ll even bring the cleaning supplies. Need someone to babysit your kids while you go away for a weekend? I’ll do it. Stay late? Cook extra? Loan money? Run an errand? Give up my bed, my book, my best outfit? You bet.
“This was my life,” said Sharon, 42. “I thought I had to do anything and everything people asked. Even if they didn’t ask, I’d find ways to accommodate them. And if I couldn’t, I felt guilty.”
Sharon was an expert, no-holds-barred, genuine “accommodater.” Somewhere along the line, she learned that her needs weren’t important. In fact, she had been accommodating others for so long and doing it so well, she didn’t even know what her needs were.
What she did know was that she was unhappy, that she sometimes felt angry and almost always felt guilty. She realized she allowed people to use her, but she didn’t know how to say no.
“To me, self-care had something to do with giving myself breast exams,” she said. “If someone mentioned boundaries, I thought they meant property lines.”
“Self-care is an attitude toward ourselves and our lives that says, I am responsible for myself,” wrote Melody Beattie, author of Codependent No More. It doesn’t mean you become selfish, cold, and dispassionate. But you first become compassionate with yourself.
To practice self-care you must continually ask the question, “What do I need to do to take care of myself?” To be sure, self-care can take the form of gifts to yourself and pleasurable activities, but it can also mean work. For example, you may need to change some behavior or take care of some responsibility. Sometimes just saying “no” is the hardest thing you have to do. Especially early on when new behaviors are as foreign as clothes are to cats.
Self-care also means asking others for what you need and want, everything from returning an iron that doesn’t work to requesting certain sexual pleasures from your partner.
Practicing self-care means you become your own best friend, confidante, personal counselor and spiritual advisor. One thing is true: practicing self-care will always improve any situation you are in.
Following are some self-care qualities:
Being financially responsible. This means
being aware of your financial situation and taking responsibility for living within it.
- Taking care of yourself physically. Eating healthfully and exercising; practicing preventive health care. Being in touch with your body.
- Having fun, playing, and laughing. You’ll feel better physically if you include laughter and fun in your life.
- Setting and maintaining boundaries. This is what I will or won’t do. This is how far I will or won’t go. This is what I will or won’t tolerate.
- Maintaining nurturing relationships. Spending your time with people who are kind, loving, honest and appreciative. Giving and accepting compliments, hugs, love.
- Affirming and nurturing yourself.
- Seeking professional help when you need it. Remember, you don’t have to do it alone.
“Self-care isn’t narcissistic or indulgent. Self-care is the one thing I can do that most helps me and others too.” — Melody Beattie
How Well Do You Maintain Balance?
by Wanda King
If trying to maintain balance in your life makes you feel like a tightrope walker, you’re not alone. Most of us have so many demands on our time and energy, life can feel like a three-ring circus. Take this quiz to see how well you are meeting responsibilities, while also recognizing and fulfilling personal needs and wants.
[ ] [ ] 1. The only way I can successfully manage my life is to take care of myself physically and emotionally.
[ ] [ ] 2. Nurturing myself enlarges my capacity to help others.
[ ] [ ] 3. I eat healthfully and exercise regularly.
[ ] [ ] 4. I get check-ups, go to the dentist, and take preventative precautions.
[ ] [ ] 5. I set aside personal, quiet time for myself, whether I’m meditating or simply letting my thoughts drift.
[ ] [ ] 6. I experience the gifts of each season: ice skating, sledding, bundled-up beach walks; gardening, hiking, more time outside; camping, swimming, barbecues; harvesting the bounty, gathering wood, spending more time inside.
[ ] [ ] 7. Creativity nurtures me, too. I do what I love, whether that’s cooking, drawing, painting, writing, dancing, singing or another creative pursuit.
[ ] [ ] 8. Reaching out to others enriches my life. I spend quality time with family and friends.
[ ] [ ] 9. Contributing to the world provides connection and purpose, so I give my time, energy and experience where it is most useful.
[ ] [ ] 10. I notice and heed the emotional signals that tell me I’m out of balance: irritability, overwhelm, resentment.
[ ] [ ] 11. If I feel that I’m catching a cold, I realize I may have stressed my immune system with overactivity, so I stop and take care of myself.
[ ] [ ] 12. When I need or want to, I say no to requests for my time.
[ ] [ ] 13. I listen to and honor the requests my body makes for such things as a nap, a walk, green vegetables, hot soup.
[ ] [ ] 14. If I have something planned for myself, I don’t just toss that aside when someone makes a request of me.
[ ] [ ] 15. I’m busy, but I find time to do the things I want to do.
[ ] [ ] 16. I’m happy. I regularly experience well-being, contentment, even joy.
If you answered false more often than true, you may want to take a look at the questions to which you answered false and see if you can incorporate something of its message into your life. Please don’t hesitate to call if you’d like to explore this opportunity further.
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